Words. We see them, hear them, often taste their sweetness or bitterness as we speak them, and at times we can actually feel their weight in the wake of devastating news. We are so inundated with words that at times it feels impossible to escape the noise they create.
Although often sung otherwise by the tongues of youth, we all know that words are powerful and capable of lifting up or tearing down. We have probably experienced both the good and harmful effects of words, and, if we’re honest, we have probably used them in both regards as well.
Once we master a language we learn to manipulate it’s words to our advantage, whether for good or evil, we can even say one thing and mean something entirely different by the tone in which we choose to communicate.
It’s hard to deny the power of words.
He who restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. – Proverbs 17:27 NASB
The CSB version replaces the phrase cool spirit with keeps a cool head. This verse speaks of moderation, controlling anger and the wisdom in silence.
Wisdom in silence.
This concept seems foreign in these social media driven days. The world has become smaller, more connected, and it seems that everyone has much to say about everything. We might not know much about the why or all of the details surrounding the what, but social media provides an outlet and an audience for anyone to add their 2 cents.
And, I wonder if these new platforms have only increased the entitlement felt to say anything about anyone or anything. Sitting behind the screen gives a sense of security, a way to blast without sensor, a way to bash without looking in the eyes of another.
Wisdom in silence. Wisdom in not always having to be heard or needing the last word.
Rather than spewing whatever comes to our minds, remaining silent and restraining our words allows us to choose our words wisely, to be intentional and mindful. Taking a moment to pause reveals feelings that cloud sound judgement and can prevent us from saying things we may later regret.
I recently attended a session at a writer’s conference that challenged us to write short and powerful pieces. One of the exercises we were given was to practice writing six word memoirs.
Darkness magnifies the Light desperately sought.
Although small, her presence undeniably grand.
The purpose of this exercise was to focus on clarity and meaning, choosing the best words to convey the magnitude or feeling of an experience or belief. Removing the unnecessary fluff in order to zero in on the core message. Choosing six words in daily conversation is extreme, but being international and wise with our words is something we should all practice.
We may think that more words helps us explain and defend, when more can often muddle the message and cause confusion. Being intentional with our word choice provides clarity.
Less is more, if you will.
Even the words spoken in jest can be taken as critical and hurtful.
Whether spoken or written we all want to be understood. And, while we might not all be writers, we are all communicators, even through text messages.
Let’s choose our words wisely with one another. Whether a friendly conversation or a heated debate, may our message be clear and our words be delivered in love.