You belong here has become a common slogan for many American evangelical churches.

The message of the gospel is for every person–every member of every tongue, tribe and nation. Perhaps it is with this truth in mind that many churches have adopted a phrase that boasts of inclusion for all.

However, most churches are not organized in such a way that allows for such inclusive belonging. I do not say this as an attack or criticism, but merely as an observation from one who grew up in and loves the church (the local church as well as the universal Church).

Brenè Brown describes belonging as “being accepted for you.” Period. True belonging has no strings attached. We belong when we can be our true selves, without having to look, believe or act like everyone else.

Surely most of us can agree that this is not the type of belonging that churches are offering. In fact, most churches require one to become a member before being able to fully participate in serving or leading.

In a sense, the evangelical church in America is a club with full rights for members only. Membership usually requires one to fully agree to a “Statement of Faith,” and often includes verses to support that members lead moral lifestyles and regularly give through tithes and offerings.

I wonder, though, how you belong here is defended to individuals who do not agree with said faith statement. What about the individuals who find themselves questioning and doubting faith all together? Would they find a safe place to ask questions and wrestle with their doubts?

And, what about individuals who identify as LGBTQ+? How would they find belonging at a place that subscribes to “biblical marriage?”

Sure, anyone can attend these evangelical churches. They can stay for the sermons and worship, and the church will gladly accept their money. But, let’s be honest, until a statement is signed there is no way for an individual to truly belong.

I write this as an “insider.” I know how church works, I understand the culture. And I think it is unkind for churches to use terms that suggest an all-inclusive type of belonging. I think it’s unkind because it’s not true.

Rather than using the word belong, I think it would be kinder, and truer, if churches used a world like welcome. You are welcome here. That phrase feels better, more authentic.

As the Church, we should be welcoming and inviting to everyone. The family of God is big and diverse. I’m still wrestling with my thoughts on having to sign a statement in order to serve and fully participate–I don’t have the answers, but I think we’ve got it backwards.

Jesus invited individuals to come as they were. He taught and dined with saints and sinners alike. A change was not expected before an invitation was offered, but it was through their interactions with Jesus that lives were transformed, changed, made new.

Relationship was extended before belief was proclaimed.

Perhaps if we allowed everyone to participate in church we would be living out this belief that everyone belongs. I think we would also feel less need to control who was allowed to do what, and simply allow the Sprit to freely move and convict each individual as the Spirit desires.

Attending church, especially for those who have never been or who haven’t been in a while, is often a step of bravery. The least churches can do is extend a clear and kind message upon arrival, not just one that sounds good.